Reading more blogs again... saw these...

From BadAstro Blog:
“We humans seem to be extremely good at generating ideas, theories and explanations that have the ring of plausibility. We may be relatively deficient, however, in evaluating and testing our ideas once they are formed.”
To that he is exactly right. We can always come up with an explanation ( “It was astrology! Planet X! Sunspots! Telekinesis! Homeopathy!” ) for some event, but as humans we’re pretty poor, maybe even lazy, about explaining our explanations to ourselves.

I would have to agree. Sometimes we can come up with crazy ideas as to reason out things that we can't understand. Basically in short, this is how rumours come about.

From my friend's blog...
that's the way love is... realistic love anyways... it's usually one person puts themselves out there.. knowing that the other person may/may not be feeling the same way, hoping that if they do, they'll show it, and if they don't, they'll grow to feel that way about you. N it sucks to be at the giving end, becoz it seems quite unrewarding, but then you don't know if it is or if it's just you who's thinknig that it is. becoz that reward could be right around the corner. And the real pain of it is... just not knowing~ L Z

In truth, sometimes some people want to do it this way, so that it won't feel like the person is coming onto the person too strongly. There's always the fear of scaring that person away. The way I see it, if you want it, go get it. Don't wait by the sidelines hoping that the person will drop by. It doesn't work anymore. I've seen it happen.
Easier said than done? I would agree. Only do this when u reach the 'you don't know if it is or if it's just you who's thinking that it is'. That means she's alright with you = you've won half the battle.
A few advice taken from friends (hope I get their meanings right):
1. Usually in S'pore context, once a gal knows someone is going after her, and is in the considering stage, other guys would usually give up. A good analogy would be bidding for modules. Once you place the bid, other people would just move on and see if other modules can be bidded rather than waste points on this module.
2. Always recce. Make friends with her friends. Of course, get into their good books, even if it means treating them meals and bringing them shopping. (haha, kidding) But really, if they feel positive towards you, your market value will increase in Her point of view. Besides that, you can find out more about her through her friends too, which can help you win her heart. Speaking of which, knowing too much can also kill you chances. It'll be like stalking.
3. Another friend of mine told me about pace too. He would apply what I call 'fast n furious'. That means winning her heart in the shortest possible time. Seen it work before, but it comes down to 'coming onto the person too strongly'. So it depends on character. Some people can be frightened and run away. Recent examples can prove that(that was extreme). I used to recommend the slow and steady approach, which was to give her time to think can consider. Now, it would be best to up the speed a bit. That way, rejection wouldn't be considered. Well, times have changed, strategies have to be updated.

From my personal point of view, don't drag an issue too long, or you'll end up one step behind. Quote from a senior, 'Pace yourself. Pacing is very important'.
I shall open this issue to my readers whom I believe have much to say about this. Hope they can give their 2 cents worth.
As for guys, I'm not sure if this can be applied. In short, they can be picky, but can't resist something that ends up at their doorstep.

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